What do women (& men) want today in intimate relationships? A contemporary look at relationships and their challenges in the Consulting Room A one-day seminar with Susie Orbach and Luise Eichenbaum London, 11 May 2019 (Saturday) 10:00am - 4:00pm
The last three decades have redefined intimate relationships like never before. Not only has the cultural space opened up new longings, but desire is now more visible – as a necessary imperative for a ‘successful’ life. New genders and sexualities are being expressed, new demands are on the table – all creating new confusions (and sometimes shame) about vulnerability, need and attachment expectations. Moreover, the cultural landscape within which intimate relationships are defined, keeps changing all the time. Dating rituals, on-line relationships, sexting, sexual expression ‘apps’ and the notion of happiness as a ‘must-have’ – are just some of the defining inputs for new forms and rules for relationships. It can be perplexing, and this perplexity is showing up in our consulting rooms. Increasingly, as therapists, we are encountering the effects of a screen culture that can offer false forms of attachment, while simultaneously engendering a sense of both promise and insecurity. How does this social phenomenon alter the very real, face-to-face therapy relationship? Are there new challenges facing the psychotherapist as we engage our clients’ desire for, and fear of connection and intimacy? Does a merged attachment blur the boundaries between self and longed for other? What does the analytic process offer in the shift from defended need and desire to an achievable separated attachment? At this unique and intellectually stimulating seminar, Susie Orbach and Luise Eichenbaum take a relational/attachment informed look at contemporary relationships, exploring the ways in which social constructs of gender continue to permeate those attachments. The speakers recognise that neither ‘merged attachments’ nor ‘separated attachments’ are official categories of the Attachment canon but explain how these concepts contextualize our understanding of secure, insecure, avoidant and ambivalent categories and deepen our clinical work. Session 1: The Cultural Moment Session 2: Mapping longings and the struggle for recognition through merger Session 3: Defences against intimacy Session 4: Achieving separated attachments
About the speakers Susie Orbach is a psychotherapist, writer and co-founder of The Women's Therapy Centre in London and The Women's Therapy Centre in New York. Her books include Hunger Strike, What's Really Going on Here?, Towards Emotional Literacy, Susie Orbach On Eating and The Impossibility of Sex. Together with Luise Eichenbaum, she authored What Do Women Want?: Exploding the Myth of Dependency, a pioneering work that explored the relationships of men and women and how they ‘manage’ their dependency needs. She lectures widely in the UK, Europe and North America and has written for several magazines and newspapers. Susie sees clients for individual and couple therapy and has been an advisor to the NHS, the World Bank and Unilever. Luise Eichenbaum is the co-founder of The Women's Therapy Centre in London and The Women's Therapy Centre Institute in New York where she is on faculty and the Board of Directors. She has published and lectured widely on issues of gender and psychoanalytic psychotherapy and is in private practice in New York City.

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